When Lavender Doesnโ€™t Cut It…

Trauma sneaks up on you. If you’ve been through a traumatic incident you instinctively know this.

One minute you’re minding your own business.

The next minute you’re in full fight/flight/freeze.

Whether you’re actually IN danger or only perceiving it doesn’t matter to your amygdala. The guard is up, the battle stance is ready.

The other day my son and I had multiple rough battles in a 12 hour time span. These skirmishes ebb and flow (I should probably start tracking it because I’m pretty sure it has something to do with the moon or growth spurts or food or Tuesdays… I don’t know.).

Throughout this day I was longing for bedtime. Because it meant I could stop fighting, even if just for a moment.

Since it was no ordinary day I knew our ordinary diffuser blend would never cut it if I wanted to enjoy any rest.

I needed sleep so I pulled out the emotional big guns, filled his diffuser, and prayed.

Why these?

Lavender – calming and relaxing oil. Old faithful. It also created a strong foundation for the other intense smells that I paired with it.

Roman Chamomile – superb oil for total chill, especially for kids. Harder to source and has been out of stock in Young Living for a while. But, I’m super grateful to have snagged this bottle (and another) free with my orders last month.

German Chamomile – excellent oil for releasing negative emotions, rage, and anger. Yes, please!

Blue Tansy – releases anger and calms chaotic situations. Calms feelings of overwhelm, loss of self-control, and self-destruction. Check!

I kid you not. This child slept all night long without a peep. That, my friends, is a rarity on par with a pink unicorn. (Kids on the spectrum are notoriously poor sleepers. He’s way improved since we started oils, but no peeps all night is unusual.)

And, how did he wake up?

Like an angel.

I couldn’t believe it!

Praise the Lord!

You’d better believe I put that same blend in his diffuser last night! Hallelujah for sleep!

Put Anger To Bed Diffuser Blend

6 Lavender

5 German Chamomile

4 Roman Chamomile

3 Blue Tansy

We have his epic diffuser that runs for 10 hours, (which is why the large number of drops).

This diffuser is my FAVE and is the one that now comes in the Premium Starter Kit. If you’re not yet getting your essential oils from Young Living, then we should chat, friend.

I wouldn’t trust any other company with my family.


DAY 10


Activity: Go to bed early. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ

Oil: Tranquil. RutaVaLa. Valarian. Cedarwood. SleepyIze. Whatever works for you!

Why Is Sleep Important?

Sleep helps your brain work properly, improving your capacity for learning and attention. All the moms with infants or general sleep depravation can testify!

Adequate sleep also helps you with controlling your emotions and behavior, and coping with change. Sleep is hugely important to your physical health as well – immune function, cardiovascular function, endocrine system, and hormones.

Need some tips on going to bed earlier? Let us turn to the Internet: https://www.wikihow.com/Go-to-Bed-Early. They’re not kidding, man. WikiHow really will tell you how to do anything.

So, I get it. This “go to bed early” idea may seem like fantasyland for you depending on your phase of life. No worries, no guilt.

Maybe going to bed early is an everyday thing for you – HIGH five! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ–๐Ÿผ

Maybe you’re a “night owl” and have a hard time winding down in the evening. ๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

Maybe you’re using (or misusing) the glorious quiet time at the end of the day just to play catch up. (๐Ÿ™‹๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ)

Maybe sleep is restless for you in general. Maybe there’s fear associated with sleep. That’s my story.

Whatever your story, God’s truth remains.

What Does Scripture Say?

Psalm 4:8 – In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety.

Vulnerable time!

Anxiousness is my go-to emotion. Hands down, it is the primary struggle of my emotional, physical, and spiritual life. For a period of months several years ago, I dealt with crippling fears that effected my ability to sleep. It was torture. I recall those nights of extreme emotions, dreading the dark, the loneliness, the fears that morphed and amplified as soon as the sun headed West. This debilitating lack of sleep is what ultimately led me to step away from the private counseling practice I spent years building. It was a very, very scary time.

On the other side of that, the only thing that got me to today is Jesus. You won’t hear any oily solutions from me about what i did to calm myself – this was well before I came to YL. The closest I got was Bath and Body Works Lavender Sleepy Lotion (don’t judge me), which actually did help me as my precious husband rubbed my back and prayed with me. The verse, though, that I would repeat over and over through each terrible moment was this one – In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety.

What Will You Do?

If night is a fearful time for you, know that I have been there, dear one. Although it may feel like it, you are not alone. Not only have others walked that road, your Savior walks it with you.

Fear tells you a great many untruths. Yet, it is the Lord who makes you dwell in safety. There is no fear in the presence of his perfect love.

Sleep well tonight, friends. And, sleep EARLY!

Share with me here – what are your go-to oils for bedtime? Who knows – I just might find a new favorite!